What No Longer Serves You?

By: Angela Mayah Solstice

I recently attended an open mic poetry event. It was exciting to me for two reasons. One, I REALLY had been anticipating getting out of the house to have some much needed girl time. Two, I am ready to begin writing and performing my poetry again and anxious to be in the environment. The evening started off well, the event was well produced, theatrical, and featured some great talent. Yet soon enough I kept distracting myself by observing the young couple sitting in front of me. They couldn’t keep their hands off each other, kissing, hugging, and arms wrapped around each other the whole time. All of it was triggering and slightly irritating! Judgment after judgment rolled through my head. Thoughts of, “they’re just totally sexual, no love,” “ he just brought her to this so he could get some sex from her afterwards,” “he’s not even into her he just wants to get into her pants,” I was very much on a roll! Thank goodness I could peel my eyes away and enjoy the rest of the evening. I wasn’t able to stay until the end of the event but enjoyed myself nevertheless.

Fast -forward a couple of weeks later and as I was clicking through photos and video from the event, a video titled “unexpected proposal” caught my attention. A poet and a young man approached the mic and the woman recited a poem speaking of everlasting love. At the conclusion of the poem the young man walked over to another young woman in the audience and bowed on one knee and began a real live marriage proposal. I instantly recognized the young man and woman as the couple sitting in front me that night. As I sat there shocked face staring at my computer God began his gentle teachings to me in my spirit. I knew more than ever, it was time to let go of making harsh judgments of others once and for all. If there is one thing I know about change is that it does not happen overnight. It takes being “conscious” and “aware” of that thing you want to change. You then apply new behaviors and eventually a transformation takes place. Here’s to continually releasing behaviors that no longer serve us! Happy New Year! Until then, it is all one day at a time. Xo

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